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Guest Blog: Severance

February 3, 2020

 

Guest blogger, Michelle, shares her personal story of her journey as a recently discovered NPE (not parent expected). How it felt to have "half her DNA, family history and sense of self erased in a mere moment". Please note we all have our own voice to share, please respect his words that he has chosen to share with us. Thank you :) 

I am a grown up, seriously half a century old. I am well educated and world traveled. I have a beautiful little family with a husband and children I absolutely adore. But here I sit, confused and angry, strangled by sadness, trying to contain and control a hurt so deep inside me I fear I will never be able to fix it. 

 

I am a newly discovered NPE (not parent expected). The memories of my childhood and my family relationships feel tainted now, tainted and twisted by the secrets that one simple Ancestry DNA test exposed. The girl and the woman I used to be no longer exist. Half my DNA, family history and sense of self erased in a mere moment.

 

So now my new life with my new true self begins and it has been a rocky road thus far. It is a difficult thing to come to terms with the fact that the people most dearest to me, the people I have loved and respected my entire life, lied to me. Lied to me daily and with a smile. You would think that the spoken word "Daddy" must have resonated so loudly and